A wise someone once said to me that “rejection has a lot less to do with you than you think it does, and a lot more to do with the other person“.
Sadly, as humans, we have a pattern of begging for love and acceptance from those who have nothing to give us. Freedom comes from realizing that allowing rejection to control our emotions and steal our joy is giving someone — often times someone who is no way qualified to make such a judgement — the power to dictate our self worth.
I’ll admit… I spent most of my teenage years and early twenties allowing failed relationships slowly chip away at my self-esteem. Every lie, every ignored text, every breakup caused me to fall back into my pattern of self-loathing, wondering what I did that wasn’t good enough. If I had just been skinnier, prettier, smarter, something, I could have kept him around.
Reality is, the reasons for rejection and mistreatment from others often stem from their own internal battles and flaws, not yours. How can someone love you who does not even love themselves? Someone who does not see themselves of any value will never see the value in you. You will never be enough for someone who is too broken to see how much you are worth.
My journey toward self-love began the day I stopped internalizing rejection from others, and realized my worth does not belong in the hands of those who do not deserve it. My value is not contingent upon whether someone chooses to appreciate it or not. Neither is yours.
Find power in the idea that your worth belongs to you and you alone. Your strength to love yourself for who you are, no matter what is happening in the world outside of you, makes you invincible, unshakable. Knowing that you are enough – now that is true self-love.
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